Taking him in public can be tricky. He can be perfectly well behaved, or perfectly awful. Last week Friday, we were finishing up or last errand to get ready for Irene. We had been to the store, the bike shop, the bank, and the library. We were at our second library of the day and my youngest was done. I purposefully put him in a stroller because I knew how this trip would go. He had already been a handful at the store and the other library. I was just hoping that I would be able to keep him contained enough and quiet enough to do what we needed to do and get out of there.
While in the kids' section of the library, I decided to let him out of the stroller. Mistake. He began to run around the stacks and take off out of sight. Not only that, but he was laughing loudly. I grabbed him and held him. I told him to be quiet. He screamed to get put down. The screaming continued. I decided to put him back in the stroller. It was a fight. He locked his knees and continued to yell to get put down. After a struggle, I got him buckled into the stroller. He continued to yell. I was deflated and embarrassed. I wanted to get out of the library as soon as possible before anyone could ask us to leave. I told the other boys to quickly pick out another book so we could leave.
As I was walking down and aisle, a women getting books looked at me and said, "Excuse me Ma'am."
Oh, boy, I thought, here it comes. She is going to say something like, "You really should not bring him to the library. or "Can't you control your son?"
"You're amazing.", she said.
I looked at her dumbfounded.
"You're amazing." She repeated.
"You are incredible with him." She said.
I almost laughed. But, I said thank you. At that moment, I felt so far from amazing. At that moment, I did not think anyone else could think that I was amazing or doing a good job.
But, here was this stranger telling me I am amazing.
I needed to hear that in that exact moment. I needed that validation at that moment. She really was like an angel. Her, "You're amazing" meant "Keep up the good work. Your are doing the right thing. You are fighting hard. You are doing the best for him." to me.
And I realized that we all need to hear it too.
In those moments when the kids are tough and you feel like you just want to break down and cry, know, that you are AMAZING!!